Since we were born, we have been taught to be nice to everyone. Also, there are times when we realise the positive things in our lives actually work. Sorry to mention this, but just like fools, we find positivity while helping others, and never take the needs of others for granted. Sometimes it makes us realise that we are becoming superhumans (angels or saints) who are always ready to help people.

Certainly, we are also taught to help the people because it is part of our religion and culture, or even because it is "Real Humanity". But there are times when we get tired of being nice.

Here, I wouldn't say that you mustn't be nice to everyone. But, what we do is dedicate ourselves, heart and soul, to that particular person or that particular group of people, such as family, friends, or others. We sacrifice our money, relationships, and peace of mind. We truly suffer as a result of it because those who seek your help are unwilling to give you even their respect.

Is it because they are bad? Or is it because the level of care you gave was not actually asked for? Give it a thought!

You are here to read this paper because you want to know whether being nice is a curse or a fault for doing good things with people, whether I should stop being nice, or anything else. You are asking yourself," Arent you tired of being nice?"

The funniest thing is that you have tried not to care for people, but still you do. You have thought not to care about the people, but you do!

The solution is simple but hard to realize—I am giving you a way now to work on it!

You must know that almost every person in this world is born with a particular personality and nature. Once you are the person who is most caring, you have the guts to make the decisions and take on the responsibility of providing care and help to others.

I understand the person you care about can be anyone, regardless of whether you have an authentic relationship with them. You may have had a bad experience while helping people with whom you have no relationship, even if they are not family, friends, or in an intimate relationship with you.

for any person, you thought needed care or help, and you stood up there, but in the end, the result you got was so unexpected.

Understandably, you cannot reveal it to any of your loved ones or to any other person.

Relateable, Right?

But, the question is: why did you do this? You always try to ask yourself, "Why have I been unnecessarily caring for the person?" and " Arent you tired of being nice?"-

When we are tired of being nice to people, it is not about being nice to every person. It is just when you are going through any emotional state of life after stressful situations. You have many ups and downs where the failures are more than your success stories, and you become a victim of your own emotions.

Slowly and gradually, you become the person who is continuously experiencing grief and sadness.

What you need to do at this time is control your emotions, which are not in your hands. The only way to deal with it is to understand your own personality.

You have to understand that it is not the negativity from the outside that creates the negativity for you. Once you get control of your personality, you can then have an understanding of your surroundings and the people out there so that you can actually stabilize your life.

What you are doing right now is getting the idea that you must stop being nice to everyone because you are tired of helping and caring for people.

Believe it or not, this is not the ultimate solution to get rid of this situation. Because once you are moving towards the negative thought process, it is obviously a negative thought process for you to have in mind that I am not going to help or care about anyone.

It means, "You are starting a fight within yourself."

You are building negativity in your head, and you will ultimately have bad results for not always feeling good.

In the meantime, what you need to do is understand yourself, which means accepting your flaws. Accept your personality the way it is. You have to realize that you are the person who has been so caring for other people that you are now getting the worst result from the world.

It is not because the world is bad, but because the world is moving at its own pace and wavelength.

What is important is that you have lost your way because you are always thinking about other people and not caring about yourself, and even though you are not doing anything wrong, you feel guilty about yourself.

Now is the time to concentrate on yourself.

Let's see, the very first step is to have someone take care of you. You are a person who is very caring and helpful, so why not make that personality your own?

Let me make the point that no one will guide you in the way I am making the point. Your existence is actually the real meaning of your life. You are born to take care of it and to make certain things out of it. Your approach to help must be based on your skills and abilities. Out of the box, caring for others is actually a forceful act.

You have to take care of yourself because you are getting frustrated, and you have to help yourself, not others.

Your surroundings are ruining your mood. You are not free to think positively, you are not free to eat healthily, and by taking care of yourself, you are, in the end, only suffering. The title is "You Are a Selfish Person." Even after sacrificing your finances, moral support, and peace of mind, you are not worth it.

Hence, the answer is YES!

You are tired of being nice to everyone, and now is the time to put focus on yourself, which is possible by taking care of your own existence while you are making plans. Now is the time you take care of yourself while keeping in mind the task of physical and mental care.

You do not need to come to the conclusion that you should stop helping other people because it is hurting you and giving you a bad experience.

When you think about not helping other people, your mind starts overthinking and gives you other negative thoughts to process and work on. So, what you need to do is work on your existence while giving it a chance to think about that same care.

You must not start exercising, doing yoga, or doing any other thing. This is all not workable in a practical way for this situation, in particular, I believe.

Make some plans for yourself, including going out, eating, participating in any sports activity, or gathering with people (maybe new people where nobody knows you to judge you but you can have a good quality fun time).

Even I can bet that if a person comes to you and asks for help, you will never deny that, even after thinking that you are not going to help anyone.

  • Do not stop yourself or close your door because that can frustrate your mind and lead to overthinking. Just treat it normally. 
  • Do not just give it more value; help however you can. Even if your mind gives you a thought, change it. 
  • Do not fight but give your mind a new thought, like hanging out with good friends, having dinner, or having other enjoyable moments. 
It can sometimes give you a bad hour, but accept it and change the activity. You will be amazed!