People say that love is all about caring and taking responsibility for the other person's emotions and needs. Truly speaking, love is never forcedly connected with care and responsibility. 



The care and responsibility in a relationship are a choice and not a task that is forced on any person.

Let's understand what is love that you actually love!

For example, a person sees you and likes you at the moment, and then he or she wants you to have a cup of tea if you feel bad or tired and wants to talk to you to make you feel happy.

You liked the way the person treated you? 

That person did this because of heavily loaded emotions and desire towards you- 

It does not mean that person wants to do this all the time when you are unhappy or tired. So, the person who is in love with you should be caring and responsible for all of your happiness and sadness all the time, which is a curse for that person.

It means that the lover would care if he or she wanted to care, and that wanting to care is based on understanding the love and emotion that person feels in that particular moment and not all the time.

You cannot ask. Even it is not in control of that person too!

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What we usually do is, when we have a relationship with anyone, whether it be a mother, father, sister, brother, son, daughter, or life partner, we tend to pretend that if you love me, then you will have to care for and be responsible for all of my happiness and sadness.

If you are not, it means that you do not care and that you do not love me.

You should not Beg for Care and Love

We hardly understand that love is a good emotion that we feel when we are happy, and in our comfort zone. It is never the case when we do not feel good, are angry, are irritated, or are not in a discomfort situation like working with someone or fighting with someone in an office.

But what happens is that people want us to be there to care and take responsibility, whatever the situation and wherever we may be.

Basically, it does not do anything but irritates the person who loves you.

The person will think whatever I do from all of my heart and soul, this particular person or my partner will never be satisfied by me.

It is just that we need love and attention in the time we want, which is practically not possible.

We have to realize that we are the ones responsible for our own happiness, not anyone else.

Someone loving you or you loving someone doesn't mean that now you are responsible for taking care of the emotions of the person all the time because it is not possible.

We need to understand that we always pretend that the feeling during the initial days with the mother, father, brother, sister, daughter, or even life partner was really good. But with the passage of time, everything changed.

It changed not because of the mere words of expectation you hold? Please stop using this word! It is misleading the people and not making them realise what they need to understand.

Expectations are normal! No, it is not. You are asking someone to be a slave of your mood in the name of love. It is like love is a crime you did and now bear the burden.

We pretend like it has now become the duty of the person to take care of ourselves, and we are responsible for all of our emotions, which is a really bad habit.

The person can have another friend as well. That person can be in love with someone else as well.

It is not about cheating relationships.

It can be about having someone else as a friend, brother, sister, or anything else. We must not make ourselves the first priority in the lives of those other people.

But it is not the only chapter in the lives of the person read it again and again.

  • Every person needs a change in their life in terms of activities and the people they meet.
  • They want silence. So stop asking for the time to talk whenever you want. - Give space
  • They had to go to sleep. So stop asking for the company whenever you want-
  • It really becomes more of a forceful love than a soulful relationship. This is why couples get tired of each other.

You have to slowly and gradually train your mind to accept what it is actually not ready to get.

Hence, what we need to understand is that we should not make love a forced job in an organization where the person is just working because he or she is stuck in a financial crisis.

In love, someone is stuck in an emotional crisis and that person is unable to leave you, and this is the reason he or she is suffering from your negative attitude of asking for care and responsibility all the time.

Understand, you can only feel the love when it is genuine and not asked for! That moment is when the person will be yours with all of his or her heart and soul.

Love can never be begged for...

Once you ask- the person will be there - care for you. But, you soon will realize something is missing. That something is Love!